That was a very illuminating question and answer for me.
Rad, I have added my clarifications in parenthesis to see if I understand the basis for what you said:
It would be combination of both because the Soul has been trying, in essence, to learn how to stand on it's own two feet, so to speak. Trying to actualize it's own individuality, and inherent truth, by it's own efforts independent of the security of external relationships (the south node of Venus in Capricorn in the 9th, squaring the lunar nodes. Naturally having been played out via the position of natal Venus in Capricorn in the 8th. Thus loosing one's inherent truth to others who sought to dominate and control).
The Soul has been learning how to be it's own teacher, and psychologically self empower within itself (same signatures as mentioned above) There have been to many lifetimes in which the Soul has been dependant on others for it's own core sense of security and self empowerment, to dependent on others as it's teachers. Yet, cyclically, the Soul has tried to rebel from all this and to learn how to stand on it's own two feet, etc. And the Soul has thus been going back and forth in this way on a cyclic basis for many recent lifetimes. And it is now beginning to move towards a state of absolute skipped steps which can occur when the Venus is in an actual square to the Natal Nodes. It does not have to play out that way. This is a life in which if the Soul embraces the intent of fully self actualizing on its own terms, independent of external relationships, then the Soul will come back to need for relationships in a totally metamorphosed, transformed, way: the natal Venus in the 8th, relative to the N.Node in the 11th. The Soul will no longer need others to actualize itself and, thus, the orientation to others will be utterly changed from "I need you" to "I am with you simply because I want to be"
And with the information we have here, the first step in resolving this skipped step would be to re-live relationship dynamics in which she has the opportunity to assert her own power and truth? (sn of venus being integrated through the lunar south node, which is ruled by venus in cap in the 8th).