I wanted to add something that I noticed when it comes to astrological polarities (ie the nodes). That the shadow of one sign LOOKS A LOT LIKE a distorted version of it's polarity. For example Virgo can have the appearance of having it all together, being perfect and pure- not being bothered by anything. This seeming peacefulness looks a lot like Pisces doesn't it? Yet it can easily just be a compensation for feeling really chaotic inside.
Ari, I think you hit on something that Wolf taught in the school, and that is that every sign carries its polarity - or ELEMENTS of its polarity - within it. And what I've observed over the years is (I think) similar to what you said below. I.e., that what we may object to MOST in our lives will reveal itself THRU the polarity sign of whatever planet we consider in its natal position in our chart. (not sure that's clear.
) An example I remember clearly was a former astro teacher who was an Aquarius, and she had an incredible dislike for Leos. She was the only one who couldn't see how she herself was manifesting the Leo archetype, because she was too busy telling us that Aquarius was the BEST sign! LOL